Why I became a coach

I have always had a natural tendacy throughout my life to coach. I love to help people connect fully to themselves and be emotionally healthy. Be able to listen & understand their thoughts and emotions, discover their needs and have self compassion. Be self-aware so they authentically lead themselves, their children and people they lead in their working life.

After decideding to dedicate my life to coaching, I registered at the INLP centerand signed up for the Integrated NLP life coaching training and succesfuly recieved my Life Coaching Cerification, NLP Master and NLP Practitioner certifications.

The course is Accredited by:
• ICF (International Coach Federation)
• International NLP Association
• Intl' Assoc. of Prof. Life Coaches

The next part of my journey is becoing ICF accredited.

About me

Hi, my name is Rachel Goss and I was born and raised in England. Having experienced many painful events during my life, my hunger to want to understand myself and change my life began my life's passion of learning and harnessing the powers of the subconscious. To master the power of my mind. To inspire others to take a leap into their minds, to begin a journey of self-discovery and start creating new chapters in their story, is for me exciting, satisfying and very rewarding.

I believe a true sense of happiness exists only within our own minds, it is there we make our story. It is there we create a version of ourselves which reflects the environment we experience. In my late 30's, I realized I was acting upon my thoughts because I believed them to be real. But I learned that thoughts are only thoughts, and not all thoughts are true. I learnt to have a constructive and positive conversation with myself, consciously and unconsciously. This took me on my path to self-awareness, self-fulfillment and ultimately, a greater sense of happiness.

After getting divorced and going through an unpleasant custody battle with my ex-husband for my son, aged 3 at the time, I moved in August 2003 to the Netherlands . After six months living in the Netherlands I became pregnant with my second son and a year later I remarried. Beginning a new life in a country, in which I didn’t speak the language, had two young children, a husband who worked 6 days a week, was by far not easy . When my marriage started to experience difficulties, it became harder and lonelier. My self-esteem was low. I believed I was not a good wife, not a good mum, and felt guilty, for yet another failing marriage. My husband and I argued over everything and nothing, both fighting to be right, both expecting the other to change. Believing if the other changed, we ourselves would feel happier, eventually though we divorced and the children and I moved out into a house provided from the council.

I had my very own epiphany when I realised I was a contributing factor to the unhappiness in my life. The feeling of being stuck and not moving forward was down to me. My fear of failure, rejection and the limiting beliefs about myself (I'm not enough, I don't belong) were the driving force behind my choices. Affecting events, circumstances and situations I had experienced up to that point in time of my life. My victim mentality had me blame others, or even myself, or the circumstances. It was not going to bring me the brighter, happier, more fulfilling life I so desired. I knew if I didn’t step up, take ownership and show up differently in my life, disappointments would certainly continue to appear. The empty and lonely feeling I had inside would not go away. It was time for change, to take charge of my thoughts and beliefs and create a better life for myself.

I am a child of divorced parents. My father left when I was only two years old. The relationship with my first step father was difficult and by no means close. After the break down of my last marriage, my journey to getting to know the real me began. It was time to do something about my emotional baggage of my past that was still showing up in some shape or form and affecting my present day decisions, actions, outcomes. I was ready to face myself, unload, let go and release a part of me that was hiding in the shadows.

Doing inner work enabled me to start to connect the dots of my past stories with the decisions and choices I was takingin the present . Peeling back the layers and uncovering the feelings from feeling abonned, not belonging, not being good enough, not lovable, were generating fears of rejection and failure. Pleasing others instead of listening to my needs. I subconsciously searched for and continued to draw into my life evidence to support all my (past) stories of not being good enough, unlovable etc.  

Becoming aware and connecting to myself on a deeper level allowed me to understand myself better. I could release the unhelpful beliefs I had about myself and replace with new empowering beliefs. Learning to have a healthy inner dialogue with myself, has tremendously helped create inner balance and good emotional health.  

Today, I live happily with my partner and my two handsome sons, now aged 19 and 14.

Career

My career has involved leading people, the last years centered around change management and project management. During my career I have witnessed the effects of both good and poor leadership, sadly the latter more present that I wish was the case. I believe we need leaders who have the courage to face their own past stories and the limiting beliefs they hold about themselves. To overcom thier fears. Why is this important?

Becasuse  when we don't deal with our "shit" we tend to project that onto others. We see things through not such a clean lens, we will react to situations unfairly, when reacting from a triggered emotional state. We do an injust to those we lead as we are unable to serve fully and encourage growth opportunites in others.

By unloading and releasing thier emotional baggage, you become more self aware. It opens up a space within to truely be authentic leaders. Leaders able to show compassion and empathy for those they lead. They see the potential in everyone they lead.


Like the saying “you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else”, the same principle applies to leadership. To lead other people, you first need to lead yourself well. To be an excellent leader is to have self- awareness.