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Boundaries are linked to our self -worth
Three main reasons why boundary setting can be difficult is: we care about what other people think, we fear the consequences and we fear the judgement it may cause.
Boundaries are necessary for our personal and and proffessional life. They are different for everyone and how good the boundaries we set for ourselves are linked to how healthy our sense of self- worth is. Self awareness is a key in establishing healthy boundaries, as we need to recognize the seperation between our thoughts and feelings and the thoughts and feelings of others. Be mindful of the interactions you have with others and develope awareness of the way you handle those interactions
How you treat yourself reflects in in the standards you set yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, how can you expect others to? Do you find people repeatedly taking advantage of you, or people who drain your energy? If so, it is time to take a good look at what kind of messages you are sending out to the world. We allow people to treat us to the level of accpetence we have set for ourselves.
With boundaries you live your life. With no boundaires you live the life others expect from you.
The consequences to not having healthy boundaries damage realtionships, what matters to us gets pushed aside and a risk of a burnout can develop.
Becoming better at setting emotional boundaries both personal and professional will create more success in your life.
1. Get clear on what your needs are. What do you want and what do you not want.
2. Identify what your limits
3. Get in touch with your feelings
4. Communciate your feelings
5. Give yourself permisson - stop feeling guilty for being yourself!
A large amount of how we learn to be treated is developed when we are children. Consider your past and your future. How you were raised and what kinds of messages you were taught or given concerning the concept of give and take? Having the awareness in your history can help deepen your understanding of what struggles you are encountering in forming healthy boundaries in your current situation.Remember, that your not alone, many people struggle with thier boundary settings.
It takes courage to develop healthy emotional boundaries.
Boundaries need to be learned and are not an overnight process but they are essential for your positive mental health.